Break Up Survival Guide – Tips to Get Back Together Again
- By Mark L. Robertson
- Published 11/22/2008
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Mark L. Robertson writes on dating and relationships. Discover the five easy steps. He recommends The Magic of Making Up
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It is the phase we call COOLING OFF. Very wisely you have decided to wait a month before doing anything to make up, and you have to decide how to handle the break up (i.e. YOURSELF) for just now. Remember that depression is your worst enemy right now. Also with fall and winter approaching you will have to have a few aces up your sleeve to avoid depression. You could be prone to seasonal affective disorder (SAD) even in normal circumstances so all the more reason to start being active. Exercise is the great cure here especially if you can do it in the open air and the weather is not too awful.
To avoid falling into the depression trap, here is some advice :-
Try NOT to sleep all the time - sure sign anyway that you are already in a pre-depression phase. If you feel the need to talk about the break up with your friends – DON’T !. You will have even fewer friends if you go on like that ! TRY NOT to stay off work- this could be your lifeline - on the contrary you could start getting really involved - you might even get promotion. By throwing yourself into work you can forget more easily. DON'T sulk and mooch around the house - accept all the invitations you can and socialise.
Here are some of the things you CAN do so that none of the above will happen and make you miserable and depressed.
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your old friends that you and your ex neglected because you were having such a great time – if you are not too embarrassed. You can take up an old sport or hobby that you used to do. That will help you to focus on something positive and you might make some new friends - helps to keep you from brooding. One of my friends did that and I am really amazed at how active he became – new dates, old friends, socialising – the lot. It really helped him.
Start getting up early - go back to the gym and start doing all the things that you probably neglected but make sure that they are the things that you like doing.
But there will be one thing that will constantly plague you during this period and that will be the NEGATIVE feelings and emotions which will make life very painful for especially during this initial period of the break up.
There is a method outlined in the link below which consists of five easy steps you ask yourself every time you experience a negative painful feeling. Once you master this technique you will notice as the days pass that healing is taking place . You will need to do a few sessions a day and each session will consist of five or six repetitions.
To discover exactly how to do this technique and above all learn the strategies which will help you to handle a break up successfully - the bottom line is that you will get your ex back - look at the link below.
To avoid falling into the depression trap, here is some advice :-
Try NOT to sleep all the time - sure sign anyway that you are already in a pre-depression phase. If you feel the need to talk about the break up with your friends – DON’T !. You will have even fewer friends if you go on like that ! TRY NOT to stay off work- this could be your lifeline - on the contrary you could start getting really involved - you might even get promotion. By throwing yourself into work you can forget more easily. DON'T sulk and mooch around the house - accept all the invitations you can and socialise.
Here are some of the things you CAN do so that none of the above will happen and make you miserable and depressed.
PHONE
Start getting up early - go back to the gym and start doing all the things that you probably neglected but make sure that they are the things that you like doing.
But there will be one thing that will constantly plague you during this period and that will be the NEGATIVE feelings and emotions which will make life very painful for especially during this initial period of the break up.
There is a method outlined in the link below which consists of five easy steps you ask yourself every time you experience a negative painful feeling. Once you master this technique you will notice as the days pass that healing is taking place . You will need to do a few sessions a day and each session will consist of five or six repetitions.
To discover exactly how to do this technique and above all learn the strategies which will help you to handle a break up successfully - the bottom line is that you will get your ex back - look at the link below.